Newsletter (08) The Next Big Win

One of the points I emphasize is this: avoiding bad people is a very important part of living free from violent crime. The problem is, most bad people don’t go around with a big sign saying “I’m a bad person, stay away!” Sometimes they conceal their true nature (to make it easier to find victims) and sometimes people are drawn to them because they find them fascinating (like women going for the bad boy type, for example).

Here’s a sneak peek into the typical mindset of gambler who has already crossed the line into criminal behavior.

http://singaporeseen.stomp.com.sg/stomp/sgseen/in_the_heartlands/449398/gambler_smashes_relatives_car_for_not.html

What made this gambler cross the line?

Like most other criminals, the gambler probably feels that his brother IS obligated to help him with his gambling debts. He may be thinking “He has so much money / He has more money than me, so he ought to lend me the money.” This is the same reasoning as a mugger thinking that it is OK to rob someone because the mugger is broke and the victim has the money the mugger wants.

I also suspect that this gambler just assumes that because he wants the money, his brother WILL lend it to him. So in his mind, he has already planned where he will spend the $2500 he wanted his brother to lend him, maybe $X to Loanshark A, $Y to Loanshark B, $Z to convince someone else to loan him money, and God knows how much to gamble on a big bet that will not only cause him to win big, but also allow him to pay off everything and be filthy rich for life.

(It’s easy to look at this assumption and think the gamblers are stupid. But if we interact with bad people and assume that they will not prey on us only because we don’t want them to, we are just as deluded as they are!)

Pay attention to what I call the Next Big Win phenomenon, when gamblers manage to convince themselves they WILL win that next big bet, they can just feel it, that their luck is just about to change. In their mind they are already counting the hundreds of thousands they are going to win with the $2500 you HAVE to lend them. So if you do not lend them that money, you are not depriving them of only $2500. In their mind you are robbing them of the hundreds of thousands of dollars that they will win in the next bet.

And their rage (and corresponding violence) will be scaled up accordingly!

In other words, the potential for violence so much greater from a gambler because of the Next Big Win fever, that fervent belief (hope) that his BIG win is just around the corner.

Recognizing the Next Big Win phenomenon explains a lot of the stupid things this gambler has done. He has embezzled company funds (he will certainly be caught sooner or later) as well as borrowed money from loansharks (illegal moneylenders who WILL get their money back in some way or other). And now he has gotten the attention of the police because of smashing his brother’s car and issuing death threats.

All of these are very unattractive options to sensible people in their right minds, because we know that the consequences will hit us hard sooner or later. But to a gambler caught up in the Next Big Win fever, he or she believes that he/she will be able to collect the prize winnings quickly and return the funds to the company before detection or pay off the illegal moneylenders before they start harassing him and his family.

(And he has justified his violence to his brother by thinking the brother has robbed him of hundreds of thousands of dollars, so in his perverse mind it was self-defence…)

What does this mean for you?

This means that you have to be extremely careful when dealing with a gambler. If you are an employer, recognize that you should as far as possible keep this person away from your company funds. If you are a friend, remember that someone infected with Next Big Win fever cannot think rationally. Please be careful when around him or her, especially when he or she starts trying to borrow money.

And if a gambler has already started threatening violence to you (such as in this case), then do EVERYTHING you can to make sure you are not an easy target.

  1. Always keep your guard up when you are out of the house, especially when coming out of the lift or going to your car in a carpark,
  2. Make sure that your home locks and doors are sturdy and secure – no point having the best locks on your door if an enraged person can kick your door down without much trouble.
  3. If you are face to face with a gambler threatening you with immediate violence, don’t count on the police coming to the rescue within a few minutes of you calling for help. Be prepared to take immediate action (running away is probably your best bet if you are not trained to handle extreme violence).

I know, all that sounds like really bad news. But frankly, all these things are what you should do in the first place. Don’t wait for someone to start threatening you or your family before you start taking smart precautions. Here’s the good news: if you are the sort who is aware of your surroundings, watch your home safety seriously and you are mentally and emotionally prepared to face someone like the gambler in this case, chances are that the gambler will go find some other victim and leave you and your family alone.

And that’s always good!

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Quick announcement: because of some difficulty in finding a good venue for group classes, I will not be conducting any group classes for this period of time. I am still available, however, for the Crime Prevention Talks and for one-on-one lessons and coaching.

So if you are interested in booking me for coaching or for the talks, email me at walkinsafety@gmail.com and I will get back to you with more info. Thanks!

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About Junjie
Musician, Martial Artist and father of two boys. Rambler, thinker and compulsive teacher.

One Response to Newsletter (08) The Next Big Win

  1. Jeriah says:

    Hey JJ, I heard from Jed that you have an upcoming sparring session with your best friend who has trained well under a master. I would totally love to see that man! Bujinkan v.s.

    Jeriah

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